This is Noah. Noah is gender queer. On any given day his answer to the question “Do you want to be a boy or a girl?” changes.
He loves superheroes, fast cars, rough housing and toy cars like most toddler boys. He also loves makeup, nail polish, pretty dresses and barbies.
I am Noah’s mother. Some of our family thinks its funny, others are supportive… Then there are those that yelled at me or try to tell him that he can’t like the things that make him happy.
Those are the people that hurt us the most.
Noah & I have and probably will continue to receive hate from the general population simply for being happy and true to ourselves. But I will love, support and protect Noah every day no matter what: as a boy, a girl or a mix there of.
REBLOG IF YOU WOULD TOO.
See, this is the genuinely weird thing about growing up as a traditionally understood little girl as opposed to a little boy. When I was younger, I could do whatever I wanted: I could wear a tutu one day, and overalls the next; I could play with my Barbies in the afternoon, and my Hot Wheels at night. It didn’t matter, and i think that this has heavily contributed to who I am today. Young boys, however, are shamed for playing with “girl’s” toys, or having a preference for “girl’s” clothes (which is, of course, very backwards, and therefore openly perpetuated by the generation that came before ours).
That isn’t to say, though, that both little boys and little girl alike aren’t being subconsciously pressured to identify with very black-and-white gender roles by the mainstream media. Lately, I’ve been paying particularly close attention to television and it is insane how markedly different commercials advertising toys aimed at boys are from commercials advertising toys aimed at girls. Boys get to smash things and take charge. Boys are leaders and builders and competitors. Whereas girls are encouraged to nurture, to cook, to care for children and to value physical appearance above all else. Boys are not encouraged to care of others, and girls are not encouraged to take on roles that challenge them. There are very few toy commercials that cannot be said to be distinctly marketed toward a certain gender.
People are complicated and do not deserve to be pigeon-holed by such divisive and frankly deplorable methods. This is so wrong, and its implications are so permanent and long-lasting that it makes me angry, and I hope it makes you angry, too.
okay am I the ONLY one that finds a few things wrong with this
for one thing, denying that the child might be cis is just as damaging as denying that he might be trans, or… “genderqueer” or whatever. (Link)
Just because he crossdresses (which is very normal for toddlers you know, of both genders) and plays with toys normnally associated with things of the female gender (again, REALLY FUCKING NORMAL FOR YOUNG KIDS) doesn’t mean he’s not cis.
SECONDLY, liking things that are normally girl things doesn’t mean he’s genderqueer. You’re only encouraging the gender stereotypes and stuff that oh he must be a girl or… part… girl? to like girl things. A BOY can’t like girl things. And a GIRL can’t like boy things.
And on another note, if a GIRL dresses up as a boy, or something like a policeman or firefighter, why is THAT not viewed as anything ‘special’ but if a BOY dresses up in a dress, oh he must be genderqueer?? if a GIRL plays with trucks, oh that’s just being a kid, but if a BOY plays with dolls, he must be special? A boy likes pink holy shit he must be some super special gender thingy but if a girl likes blue. Oh, okay. Yeah that’s a good color.